The First Step in Healing

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“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” - Carl Jung

This quote perfectly captures the heart of what I want to share with you today: how uncovering your subconscious beliefs is the key to transforming your life.

In my last entry, I explored what a spiritual journey truly is (if you missed it, you can view it here). I discussed how it’s about peeling back the layers of who you’ve been taught to be to uncover the essence of who you truly are.

The most common response I received was: “Okay, but HOW do I do that?”

Uncovering your true nature is a lifelong journey. While there isn’t a straightforward answer to the “how,” there is a key concept that can guide you on this path: becoming fully acquainted with your subconscious programming and how it drives your life.

What Does This Mean?

From birth, we begin interpreting the world through our experiences. Over time, these interpretations shape how we see ourselves and the world around us. By the time we reach adulthood, much of what we think, believe, and do stems from patterns formed in childhood—patterns we might not even be aware of.

This is why childhood shapes so much of our adult lives. We internalize messages about who we are, what we’re worth, and how we fit into the world. But here’s the issue: these messages may not reflect who you truly are. Instead, they reflect how you interpreted your experiences at the time.

Imagine a child who grows up in an environment where expressing emotions is dismissed. They might internalize the belief, “My feelings don’t matter,” and as an adult, struggle to set boundaries or share their emotions, fearing rejection or judgment. Or, consider a child who experiences constant criticism from caregivers. They might grow up believing, “I’m never good enough,” leading to perfectionism or self-sabotage in adulthood.

There are countless ways our childhood experiences shape our adult lives. Even if our parents or caregivers did the best they could, their actions and beliefs might still have unintentionally planted seeds of insecurity, fear, or self-doubt. It’s not about blame—it’s about understanding how these early experiences influenced the patterns we carry into adulthood, so we can begin to shift them.

The First Step: Awareness

Before healing can happen, we must first understand how our experiences have shaped us. This requires identifying the limiting beliefs we’ve internalized that hold us back from our full potential.

Often, these limiting beliefs show up as recurring patterns in our lives—things we struggle with again and again, like:

• Failed relationships that reflect beliefs such as “I’m not worthy of love” or “People always leave.”

• Financial struggles rooted in beliefs like “I’ll never have enough” or “Success is for other people, not me.”

• Mental health challenges stemming from beliefs such as “I have to be perfect to be accepted” or “I can’t trust anyone, so I’m on my own.”

These recurring patterns aren’t random—they're deeply connected to the limiting beliefs we’ve absorbed over time, which shape how we see ourselves and the world around us.

My Personal Breakthrough

My life changed when I realized this profound truth: my reality was a reflection of my beliefs.

I discovered that my life reflected my beliefs about:

• What I deserved

• What I was capable of

• What was possible for me

• How supported I felt by the Universe

The limiting beliefs I had acquired led me to live a life full of burnout, unhealthy relationships, and financial lack. I had poor mental and physical health, and my nervous system had me stuck in survival mode. I led with a victim mentality and constantly felt the world was out to get me. I was, simply put, absolutely miserable.

But once I became aware of these patterns, everything began to change. I realized that what I had accepted as “truth” about myself and my life was simply a reflection of the beliefs I had internalized.

Transforming Beliefs

If you could transform your belief system overnight, your life would change instantly. While it’s not that simple, it’s entirely possible through commitment and awareness.

Think of your mind as a movie, constantly projecting your beliefs onto your reality. Our limiting beliefs are the “movie” of our subconscious mind playing out in real life, over and over, until we become aware of the script and choose to rewrite it. Without awareness, that movie will keep replaying the same narrative: it’s not possible, you can’t do it, you’re not enough.

For instance, if you’ve always believed, “I’m not good at relationships,” you might avoid intimacy, unconsciously sabotage connections, or look for love in people who don’t treat you well. But by uncovering and challenging that belief, you can start to show up differently—with openness, trust, and confidence in what you truly deserve. The shift begins within you, not outside of you.

Healing is the process of uncovering those beliefs so you can change the narrative—and ultimately your life.

Start with Awareness

In the next few entries, I’ll share practical ways to shift your belief system. For now, I encourage you to focus on building awareness in your daily life. Begin by reflecting on the "why" behind your actions.

Why do you do what you do? Why do you like the things you like? Why do you react the way you do in certain situations? Consider the patterns that show up in your life—what habits, fears, or doubts keep recurring, and where might they come from?

Ask yourself:

• What do I believe about my worth, and how does that belief influence my decisions?

• Why do I seek validation from others, and what does it mean to me?

• Why do I feel uncomfortable or resistant to change in certain areas of my life?

Think about how much of your behavior feels truly authentic. How much of it aligns with who you are at your core? And how much stems from limiting beliefs, past traumas, or insecurities you’ve internalized over time?

When emotions arise as you explore these questions, notice them. What do they tell you about the deeper beliefs you’ve been holding onto? For example, when you think about your goals or dreams, do you feel excitement—or fear and self-doubt? Journaling your answers can help.

Building awareness isn’t about judging yourself; it’s about observing with curiosity and compassion. This willingness to explore your inner world is already a powerful step toward creating meaningful change.

A Lifelong Journey

Healing is not about perfection; it’s about progress. The circumstances that shaped these beliefs may not be your fault, but healing is within your power. Awareness is the first step, and every step you take toward understanding your subconscious is a step toward living the life you’re meant for.

You’ve got this, and I’m honored to walk this journey with you.

With love,
Gabrielle N.